Tips on dating a jewish guy
He is the first real guy I have been in a relationship with. We’ve been together for several months and I can sense his hesitancy about me…and I am also hesitant of him. There is statistical evidence on how many Jewish men insist on marrying Jewish – and that number is around 50%. Maybe he spends three years with you and falls in love with you. Maybe you don’t need to convert, but you’re open to raising the kids Jewish.
He still logs onto JDate every now and then, and I know because I am spying. What is the likelihood a Jewish guy will leave you because you are non-Jewish? I do not want to keep being with him if down the line he will just leave me for a Jewish girl. Which means that 50% of Jewish men marry outside our faith. There are a lot of possibilities, and each intermarried couple comes up with its own internal compromises.
My only critique is that she only turned to women to help her understand her dilemma.
You see, if you want to truly understand what is really going on in the mind of the average (and above) single Jewish male, you need to turn to one of their own for the truth.
David and Tina’s high school romance lasted almost all of senior year before Tina decided to move on. Losing Tina messed him up so badly, he had to go to Israel to live on a kibbutz for six months. Was my only purpose in life to mate with a Jewish girl so that I might sire pureblood Jewish children?
Were my parents worried that if I went sniffing around the shiksas, I might end up fathering a litter of interdenominational mutt kids?
That’s not to take anything away from the female experts who are amazing at helping their clients find love, but they’re still not single Jewish men (and never will be, I hope). But prior to my matrimonial leap I spent 15 years on the Upper West Side, living the life of an (above) average single Jewish man, so I think I might be able to give you a peek into that dark and mysterious place that is the single Jewish male mind.
He will call, write, drive, or even travel overseas to see a woman he’s interested in.Continue speaking with Jared and feeling totally confused and frustrated.When, or if, Jared is finally ready to settle down he might come crawling back to the woman who fulfilled his intellectual and emotional needs.Granted he might retain enough presence of mind to refrain from sleeping with her, but he won’t just take a hug if he can get more.So Heather, Amy, and all the other lovely single Jewish ladies out there trying to understand why the guy they’re physically or verbally dating isn’t making his move, please remember this one line and be confused no longer: When a man is romantically interested in a woman he will do whatever it takes to be with her.